Do You Know The Seven Negative Perceptions Holding You Back?

Guess what? You have no hint of what people’s perception of you
is do you? What a revelation…some people first respond with “I do
not care”… what a mistaken retort this is. Let me warn you in the
business and public environments that you exist in today, you had
better care. I’m not telling you to put on a happy face everyday
or go out of you way to be nice to people because if it is not
within your normal character, it will not be sustained or
believable. What I am telling you it to be attentive to the fact
people are constantly forming a perception model of you from the
first time they meet you and at every successive meeting.

The point I am trying to get across is simply to treat people and
situations with respect. Try not to react with ill advised words
or anger. Everyone tries to make a good impression the first time
they meet someone or are put in a new situation. More often than
not good impressions and perceptions are the take a ways from
these initial interactions.

Of course there is the most obvious first perception anyone has,
you physical appearance. I did not touch on this trait because
each of us is physically unique and individual in dress and
appearance. You and only you can decide to dress for success or
the appropriate situation, got it!

Sustaining a positive perception in other people’s minds about
you is the difficult chore. We all naturally drop some
formalities the more and more we are around other people and
become more familiar in repetitive type environments such as; the
office or periodic meetings with the same basic group of people.


There are 7 Negative Perceptions you need to be mindful of and
must try to avoid:

1. Arrogant
2. Biased
3. Know It All
4. Unapproachable
5. Short Tempered
6. Impatient
7. Poor Listener

How to check your self is relatively easy. There are three easy
questions to answer:
1. How you perceive other people, physically first then
mentally?
2. What traits do you like or dislike about them?
3. What behaviors or mannerisms at any given time become caustic?


Another easy perception check, if you are willing to put yourself
out a little, is to ask 3 or 4 people what their perception of
you is in a given scenario. We should never stop trying to
improve ourselves, think about how powerful perception is in our
daily lives and make yours exemplify nothing but positive
feelings.

Favorite Quotes For You

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of it to anyone else – Charles Dickens

No act of kindness, no matter how small is ever wasted – Aesop

Friends are born, not made -- Henry Adams

It does not require many words to speak the truth -- Chief Joseph

Friendship sooths the soul – Baltasar Gracian

Failure is simply a reason to strengthen resolve -- - John W. Gardner


Life always gives you back what you give out. Your life is not
a coincidence, but a mirror of your own doings. -Author Unknown

Why Technology is Ruining Your Life!

What am I thinking or talking about? Technology has provided our society global connectivity as well as access to a multitude of higher education and unlimited resources never dreamed of 5 to 6 year ago. Think about what the cell phones, the internet, recording devices, personal technology items, and hand held computers … what an outrageous statement I have made.

Let me expand on my statement and I beseech you to take a minute to reflect on the last 5 years (post 2000 and the global computer crash theory). What I am referring to gets back to the foundation of communication between individuals, business professionals, your peers and what our expectations are or in this case are not today. Have you talked to your kids lately? Their preferred method of communicating with adults is by cell phone, text messaging or an e-mail? Ughh, how have we as adults let this happen? Are we so busy with our own “technology” we have pushed our kids into a position that is not reversible by telling them to call, , text or somehow let me know were you are and what you are doing??? My answer is yes; can you think about getting through your day with out a cell phone?

Besides the kids, each subsequent generation seem to have their preferred method of communicating via text message, cell phone, smart phones interactive chat rooms, online video groups this is unbelievable. Thank goodness my parents still prefer to be called by telephone (landline so they can hear) so we can laugh share stories and listen to what a person is actually trying to tell you.

Not something like: RU Ok? G it! U2? Anyway I think you get my point, I’m purposely avoiding the test message world. I did check myself other day at work, someone in my office still has a pager (remember pagers?), guess what he had to do when he got a page … borrow my cell phone … Jeez.

What 4 things can you do to slow down and maybe stop technology from ruining the communication portion of your life?
1. Make it a point to have a personal conversation with someone in you office everyday.
2. Make you kids talk to you face to face o at lest turn of the electronics while you are driving in the car. I know sometimes this is not such a good idea.
3. Try to make sure your e-messaging is fundamentally correct in grammar and vocabulary usage. Do not truncate words or ignore using proper grammar.
4. Correct you children if they incorrectly communicate with you to your guidelines. Control over this when they communicate with you, there is no way for you to control outside communication between our children and their world, don’t even try.

I’m not saying technology is a bad thing at all, what I do think has happened is let our fundamental principals of good communication slip to a point I am not comfortable with. I am going to start changing my behavior and would like to re-establish a communication with my family on a face to face personal level. We may never get back to eating dinner together on Sunday, that is probably just a bygone tradition in many homes … too bad what a great place to catch up and talk through any number of subjects. Just give it a try, go shake you neighbor’s hand, slow down and talk to someone.

I started to think about this subject while standing the line to vote yesterday. A person behind me (younger by at least a generation) piped up and said; *Why can’t we vote by phone?* Think about what that may do to our concerns over voting fraud … to your success, make it happen!